Why Marriage and Life Coaching?

We are both credentialed and certified as life and marriage coaches. For years we have counseled, spoken and developed resources for marriages and now are stewarding the next season to move closer to a handful of couples to coach them personally in their marriages and or lives. Our typical couples are leaders who have excelled in the marketplace or their roles as leaders and deeply desire to experience a great marriage and family. As marriage coaches we come alongside a very limited number of couples to help them reach their potential in their marriages. Marriage coaching is for couples that want to experience all marriage is intended to be. Our life coaching is up close and personal. Whether it is Barb or Gary one on one we each bring decades of counseling and coaching to a man or woman that desires to navigate life and relationships.

How does it work?

If you desire to take the next step for marriage coaching or life coaching please contact us and we will guide you in the process.

Marriage coaching entails entering into a four step process:


In this initial step we partner with you as a couple to gather information that will be helpful in deterring if we are a good fit for one another in engaging us as your marriage coaches. We conduct a video conference session on Zoom, Skype or FaceTime to get acquainted. During this reasonably brief video chat we get acquainted and learn about you, your family and relationship and your needs and desires for entering into marriage coaching. If we mutually agree to move forward we step into the next aspect of discovery. We ask that you complete some intake questionnaires, share your goals and sign an agreement laying out the parameters of the coaching process and journey. 


Once we have mutually agreed on the coaching relationship we ask the couple to complete the Rosberg Marital Assessment Profile (RMAP). This is a statistically significant 12 scale marriage evaluation designed in collaboration with Dr. David Olson and Life Innovations. The husband and wife each complete the RMAP generating a computer analyzed report that we share together in assessing strengths and needs for improvement in 12 areas of your marriage.

The Journey 

This phase encompasses the journey of the coaching we conduct with couples launching with a 2 day intensive we describe as House Calls. The House Call is often held in Des Moines at a lovely hotel suite offering confidentiality and a minimal amount of distraction for the couple. House Calls can also be held in or near the couples home or in a neutral setting between our homes and localities. 

Following the intensive we continue the experience monthly with 70-90 minute video conferencing sessions where we join you up close and personal as a couple to coach you in the areas you desire. Many couples sign up for additional personal 1 or 2 day House Calls sessions along the journey which starts with a 12-month agreement. And most couples continue after 1 year to keep it going! In one-on-one coaching, we typically do the video conferencing and may set up a personal time of coaching as desired.

Extension or closure

In this phase we reevaluate the progress and accomplishments of goals and either set new goals to continue the Journey or move toward closure. Often couples move into a second year or beyond to continue to maintain a steady source of encouragement and coaching yet this is always mutually agreed upon by both the couple and the coaches. Want to take the next step? Contact us and let’s chat and see if we are a good match!